soo I guess I shoudl apologise first for my little hiatus. So Im sorry ! I just want to do a last update now that the class is over kinna a good bye thing . . . sentimental much?

so I guess I should maybe actually do something current we ended class talking baout employment, I think its silly that a women will be doing the same job as a man but wont get payed the same POO. As far as Im concerned you should get what you give if you give the same effort as a man you should get paid the same.

Secondly . . . stay at home moms. Do a hell of a job and deserve to get the recognition and commendation that they deserve! It has been said that beeing a stay at home parent is equal to a full tiem job and it is! These parents deserve respect and admiration and not critizism or judgment. Also if a girl decides that she wants to be a stay at home mom then I believe that her choice should be accepted. nuff said.

My final project is done over with and presented I did a short video on prostitution and you can find it online here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l4BjP7ebgNY a small warning that in the 3 am rush to finish it I uploaded the wrong copy so there are a few spellign errors . . . content people content :)


So on to the grand finale . . . I guess I should maybe say if I actually learned something in the class and I did but it might not be what you had in mind. I learnt that my oppinions are my oppinions and I have the right and responsibility to stick by those opinions no matter what, I learnt that beign open minded is sometimes just another word for close minded and most importantly I meant that you are always going to encounter opposition but thats what makes life interesting.

Don’t think I’ll confess
Why would I confess that I
Don’t think I’ll deny
Why would I deny that I
Tegan and Sarah~Dont confess

Hate begets hate and thats pretty sad.

I think the most emotionally draining part of the laramie project was when somebody was discussing the juror selection for one of the trials.

This guys friends family acquaintances were able to stand in front of him and say that they would be able to sentence him to death.

Why must we use hate as a punishment for hate ? Why cant we just focus on learning maybe being proactive and working on whats causing these issues in society ?

What those 2 boys did was WRONG it was despicable sickening disgusting and scary. But will killing them bring Matt back ? No.

I really liked Mr.Sheppards courtroom speech those 2 will learn more by waking up every morning and knowing what they did they they would have learned by being sentenced to death.

Its hard for me to say who I feel sympathy for I feel horrible for the killers families, the Sheppard family and truthfully the whole community of Laramie. I feel sympathy for the killers in some ways because they have to live with that and that must feel awful and I feel horrible that they felt that that was ok. What a lonely world they must live in.

But mostly I feel sorry for the kids who are being brought into a world so full of hate. And for anyone in society who has felt any type of that hate. And for those who have demonstrated that hate. I guess I just feel bad for everyone.

Man once sang to me
Look at you saving the world on your own
And I wonder how things gonna be
Cos the time here it passes so slow
In a city of devils we live
A city of devils we live
Find somebody to learn
Boy you gotta love someone more than yourself
I can feel the fire of the city lights burn
It's hard to find angels in hell
Yellowcard~City of devils

I don't really want to write about the laramie project until we've seen the rest of the movie however I do really recommend that anyone who has not seen this film go out and watch it ASAP.


I also want to clear up what I think is a misconception, Christianity does not promote homophobia, I know it can appear to because yes the bible does say that homosexuality is wrong (truthfully Im completely undecided) HOWEVER it also states that two main "rules" for Christianity are love God and love your neighbor. It teaches love compassion and acceptance and I am sorry if anyone has given given another idea.

Me and a friend of mine are both Christians we both wear "Outlive homophobia" bracelets because we don't think it is fair for someone to think that God or Society hates them for something like that. I think the idea of hating someone for their sexuality is stupid and wrong and sickening . . . Hate itself is all of those things.

Just wanted to clear that up because sometimes I feel that because of a few peoples actions Christianity has been misrepresented. Kind of unrelated but definitely important.

I've heard what they say, but I'm not here for trouble.
James Blunt~Tears and rain

This isnt going to be the main topic of my blog for today but I do want to clarify what I said in class and also get some other things off my chest.

To start I am not "Pro life" NOR am I "Pro Choice" I refuse to join any official type of "movement" On the abortion topic because I feel that no matter where you stand you get shot at. Nor do I know what is right for me because I have never had to choose.

HOWEVER I do staunchly believe that when a person engages in sexual intercourse they need to be AWARE of the consequences and they need to be PREPARED for those consequences. For someone to say "Oh well I didnt have sex expecting to get pregnant" Is not an excuse . . . Most rapeists dont rape expectign to get caught does that mean that if they do get caught then they should not be held accountable for there actions? If a person has taken precautions used a condom/is on the pill etc etc and then happen to get pregnant well whatever they want to do is up to them at least they were proactive before hand and took some action.

Im also not against the legalization of abortion . . . At least now its safe and I do believe that a women has the right to be safe in whatever choice she makes.

She had her eye across the street
On someone shy and tall
We lived our dreams
And challenged fate
In tears she told me she was late
And sally let his pigeons out to fly...
On the dresser sits a frame
With a photograph
Two little girls in ponytails
Some twenty one years back
She left one night with just a nod
Was lost from some back alley job
Sallys Pigeons~Cyndi Lauper

The one thing that I will advocate fully is that Abortion is not a form of birth control, The pill the patch the needle are forms of birth control they keep fertilization from occuring. Abortion is killing a fetus and eventhough it is a part of the mother it is still its own being. Killing a fetus and preventing the fetus from being formed are two completly different things.

Can't you see, it's not me you're dying for.
Now she's feeling more alone, than she ever has before.
She's alone, and I'm alone, now I know it.
Brick~Ben Folds Five

Now for the more important allthough shorter part, Im really excited for my term project I decided on a video on childhood prostitution in canada. I know at first glimpse it dosnt seem to be an issue facign women in canada today but these children grwo up to be women. Also it perpetuates cycles of abuse etc etc Im excited. Working on it is sort of depressing but still interesting.

It sounded like somebody else that was talkin'
Askin' mama what do i do
She said just be nice to the gentlemen fancy
And they'll be nice to you
Fancy~Reba Mcentire

I don't think that the correct argument is "Is abortion ok" I think that the argument needs to be "Is abortion murder?" And when you get into this argument there are very convincing arguments for both sides.

One being that until the infant is born it is an extension of the mother and therefor it is her choice to do with it what she wants. However a new Alberta law has made it legal for children to sue parents for damages that were incurred while the child was in the womb, But only in the case of a car accident. This law was in response to the Canadian legislation that provinces could allow a child to sue its parents, but only in the case of a car accident.

So if a child can sue for damages that are incurred in the womb then does that not seem to operate under the same guise that an unborn child has rights separate from the mothers while in the womb?

The fact that there is no legal definition for a fetus further darkens the issue. It is fully understandable for a pro choice believer to use the fact that the fetus is simply a lump of tissue and therefor should not be considered as a human child. Many pro life activists rebuke this claim with biological "timetables" stating fetus development.

Another important issue when considering abortion is the relatively newer ability to screen for disabilities at certain stages of fetal development. People argue that this allows society to eliminate people with disabilities it is also argued that because the testing can not decipher between levels of severity that it is unfair to abort based on the results. However many people will argue that aborting can save a child years of suffering or will save unprepared parents from having a child that they can not effectively parent.

My views on abortion? I don't know for sure I'm a Christian and because of that I do believe that abortion is murder I find it hard to see the difference between aborting an infant in the womb and taking a newborn and denying it food or oxygen. However Ive also never been in a situation where Ive had to seriously consider abortion maybe if I was my beliefs would change. I guess its hard to tell. At this point though as far as abortion being a right, Well I don't see murder as being a right. I also believe that if a child who is born can sue its parents for damages caused in the womb then if that child were killed then it would have been able to charge for murder. Like I said though this belief could change. We never really have a full perspective on any issue until we have experienced it.

I believe that the abortion debate will never be easily solved I also believe that the Canadian government needs to put a comprehensive definition out for a fetus and to what extent a fetus should have constitutional rights.

I chose two songs for the lyrics today because I wanted songs that looked at the issue from both sides, I originally made this psot without lyrics but then I decided I wanted them in. I believe that through music we can see issues in a way that makes them less intimidating thats why you find lyrics in my blog.

And then she heads for the clinic
and she gets some static walkin' through the doors
They call her a killer, and they call her a sinner, and they call her a whore
God forbid you ever had to walk a mile in her shoes
'Cause then you really might know what it's like to have to choose
Everlast~What its like

Mommy I dont like this clinic
Hopefully you'll make the right decision
And dont go through with the Knife incision
But it's hard to make the right move
When you in high school
How you have to work all day and take night school
Hopping off da bus when the rain is pouring
What you want morning sickness or the sickness of mourning
Nick Canon~Can I live

I read the reserve articles . . . I really liked the one on plastic surgery and the one on supremacy crimes. But the one on becoming 100% straight irritated me because of all the sports analogy's as for the other two ?

Truthfully the annoyed be beyond all belief I got this vibe from both of them that they were telling me how the world is as opposed to what they believe the world is, I got this vibe like I should automatically agree with everything they said. Well I have a surprise for them NO ONE tells me what to think or how to think it.

Onto other news . . .
Vagina monologues are over *tear* You know at first I was really nervous about them because some of the subject matter can be very well blunt. But as it went further and especially the two production nights I realized that it was more then the monologues itself, What mattered was all of us coming together such a diverse group and all of OUR monologues OUR stories . . . Thats what mattered. Looking at how something like that can change a life, Bring people together, Inspire change and just wow . . . Simply put its amazing.

I dont really know what else to say . . . Im out.


This is all there is, i can see that now
But I have to be careful with it, now its been found, yeah
So fragile, but powerful, yeah this is the light
This is the light of my destiny, come stay with me, through every night
Imogen Heap~Candlelight

I want to start by saying that the movie "tough guise" really irritated me, Allthough the content was good and interesting I felt like the guy kept saying the same thing over and over and over again. I wish I had counted the number of times he went back to media . . . And what made it worse was he would talk about media then another influence and then go back to media so at first I was like huh what ? trying to follow what was going on and then it just started to go on repeat.

Now that thats out . . . I really did like the content of the movie I felt that alot of it was right on and I think Id like to talk to some of my guy friends about it to see what they think just so that I know. I liked the little bits of knowledge about how guns have become bigger as have male bodies yet female bodies are getting smaller. I was absoloutly APALLED at the howard stern comments though . . . It still amazes me that in todays society something like a school shooting could be used for humor and on top of that using rape as a part of it . . . It made me physically ill to hear those comments.

I was trying to think of places that guys were misrepresented or given weird ideas for what they should be that wearnt mentioned in the movie and I came up with the fact that we as females do it all the time probably without realizing it. Unconciously we tend to gravitate towards the males me find attractive (You can not tell personality from across the room) I know that they do it to but I think that both genders need to work on that. Another place where I think some work needs to be done is this conception that a guy who isnt interested in sex is a virgin or flawed, Im a christian and because of this I have met sooo many completly amazing and good lookig guys who are ot interested in hooking up or w/e and I think it makes them that much cooler. However not everyone seems to see it that way . . .

CASE STUDY
I know an amazing boy . . . absoloutly amazing were really close and we get along great hes 18 good lucking athletic well educated goal oriented overall good guy. He has never had a GF or kissed a girl at 18 when I mentioned this to one of my close friends her first reaction was "is he deformed?"


I think we can judge them in the opposite sense though I know a girl who recently started dating a guy. One of the the first questions she wanted answered before she started dating him was how many girls he had slept with. She said that if it had been a large number she would have jokingly called him a slut but would have gotten over it, Another thing she said was that her reasoning was she would liek to know how many girls she was in turn sleeping with. I think this makes alot of sense and I dont know many girls who would say its not justified. So why is it ok for us but not guys?

I think its really sad the the completly rotten guys have given all guys a bad reputation to the point where girls and guys can have the same manurisms but if a girl does it its fine but if the guy does it hes doing it maliciously. . . I dunno


Made of plastic and elastic
He is rugged and long-lasting
Who could ever ever ask for more
Coin Operated Boy-Dresden Dolls

FOOD
wow . . . I think its important that we realize how serious this topic can be and how sometimes we dont even realize when somethings wrong. I have always had issues with food and my weight but Im just now realizing how involved you can be with it but not even realize it . . .

If Im with a group of people I will not eat unless someone else is, I judge how much I eat by what other people are eating and if I see someone eating less or healthier then me I automatically start bashing myself. Sound familiar?

But you know whats worse about this is that its not that bad, Its nothing compared to junior high when I was obsessive about it. Or one of my friends who made sure to exercise away EVERY calorie she consumed. So what is happening that we feel like eating is disgusting ? I know theres the media images of super skinny models. But what about the images where its telling us that eating is just not good if your a female. One specific example is a commercial from V8 juice a few years ago.

2 men walk into a convenience store and get nachos loaded with cheese as they are walking towards the counter they see a young attractive women with a juice they pretty much start to salivate until they realize that she is buying the same food as them then they seem shocked and dismayed

Or ice cream commercials where the girl playfully takes the guys ice cream cone and they both appear shocked that she would be enjoying such a calorie laden food

Why is it that for a female to EAT is considered so disgusting? Do we not have the need for food like everyone else? Its sad really sad . . .

There's a whole lot of singing that's never gonna be heard
Disappearing everyday without so much as a word somehow
Think I broke the wings off that little song bird
She's never gonna fly to the top of the world right now
Top of the world
Dixie Chicks~top of the world

I wanted to look at another type of "media" and maybe look for some positive aspects in it

Pageants . . . Oh how often we hear the word and oh how often we hear the differing opinions truthfully I'm surprised that they have not yet come up as a topic in class yet, But yall know me always looking for the new and exciting so I thought Id dive into this topic headfirst . . . Or is it feet first ?

Im sure we have all heard some sort of argument on pageants
"They demolish girls self esteem"
"They create confidence and poise"
"They put pressure on girls and families"
"They are a scholarship opportunity"


Well thats all fine and good . . . But what are they really ? And what about the different types of pageants? Where do you draw the line ?

Wikipedia defines pageants as

"a competition based mainly, though not always entirely, on the physical beauty of its contestants. Almost invariably, competitions for men and women are separate events, and those for men are not referred to as beauty contests. Beauty contests for women are more common, and winners are called beauty queens. Beauty contests for men, like Mr. Universe, are more likely to be "body building" contests—quite unlike the traditional "beauty contest" in which women are judged upon many attributes other than physical. However, in the 1990s, male "beauty contests" began to shift focus. Instead of only considering unnatural muscle mass, the competitions began to judge the natural physical attributes of the contestants as well as their physiques. These include Mr. World and Manhunt International."

The Miss.USA pageant website defines its delegates as
"These women are savvy, goal-oriented and aware. The delegates who become part of the Miss Universe Organization display those characteristics in their everyday lives, both as individuals, who compete with hope of advancing their careers, personal and humanitarian goals, and as women who see to improve the lives of others. Currently, Miss USA is experiencing a rebirth, playing a critical role in making the next 100 years "The Century of Women." "

Makes it all seem fairly simple doesn't it ? I mean obviously pageants are the devil and the Miss.USA corporation is lying so that no one suspects them of ruining young girls lives . . . Well maybe not. What about things such as cotillions and debutante balls? Well these as well must certainly be evil because of there premise of teaching young women manners and civility as well as arts such as ettiquitte and ballroom dance oh no seems strangly like the lady phenomenon again. Well maybe not.

My town in Alberta offers an event every year to the grade 11s called "queens ball" 40 years old this year and before that it was Nanteen. The event is institutionalized you dream about this you plan on this. The program starts in September where pairs are made boy girl pairs witht he girl commonly known as the "candidate" and the boy as the "escort" Mostly because the girls are queen candidates. After this the real work begins with 2 hours of ball room dance and 2 hours of ettiquitte a week you learn everything the waltz,vieneese waltz,jive and the rumba as well as how to walk how to talk how to hold a tea cup and how to cross your legs. Lets not forget how to pivot and how to curtsy or if your a boy how to escort and seat a lady. Halfway through the program (towards the end of October) is a fashion show where clothing from local businesses is modeled as well as one outfit of the participants choice this outfit is commonly known as the tea outfit and is what will be worn for the formal tea with the judges on the final day of the program. The fashion show is also important because it is the candidates and escorts first experience of the program when they are formally judged (although at the beginning of the program all participants are required to submit a resume of sorts as well as a casual photo")
After the fashion show the work begins again this time focusing on dance as well as more tea ettiquitte. And then about a month and a half later the big day has arrived. For the girls this involves early morning hair appointments (mine was at 10) then you go home maybe eat something and then get your tea outfit on and get picked up my your escort, You then arrive at the tea and are seated by your escort (girls and guys have separate teas) The tea consists of about an hour or so period of drinking tea munching on little dessert type things and being interviewed by the judges. After this is over its time to go home and change into your formal wear. Then you go to the old age home because the Seniors like to see everyone all dressy, Then you go to the school and begin the one on one interviews thats right an interview with you and your escort and 5 judges these questions usually consist of current events politics,issues etc. After this you get to chill out for a bit and then the ball begins. A dance portion where you display your ballroom skills and then the dance floor is opened to the public. At midnight the crowning begins (queen,best escort,best escort runner up, miss congeniality,mr congeniality, best dancers,most improved dancers, Greg dawson and donna nienaber awards) And then the night is over one final waltz and the culmination of 3 months of work work work.

So where did this leave me ? With a new found respect of pageants and so much else. My biggest gain was the ability to go into any situation and feel completely comfortable, a sense of confidence and yah some poise etc. But more then the personal gains was the community you go from a group of 30 to a single body a single goal and everyone wanting to work towards this goal.
I'm not saying all pageants are good, But I do think that some things that we see as negative can have a positive impact, We need to choose our battles and not be looking for who to blame.



She is everything I need that I never knew I wanted
She is everything I want that I never knew I needed
She is everything I need that I never knew I wanted
She is everything I want that I never knew I needed
The Fray~She is

Ive been seeing and hearing a lot of the word "reported" and I'm curious as to what it means because I think that its important to know what were talking about when we throw around statistics.

I think that a common assumption is that reported means having told someone of an incident, However I think that factually reported means that the incident has been reported to authorities (police etc) Whats scary about this is that 8% of assaults were reported TO POLICE when we take that 8% and add to it the assaults that are reported but not put in any sense of record thats an astounding amount, Add to this the number of assaults that are never spoken of . . .

Ive been thinking a lot about silence lately the conceptions and misconceptions surrounding it and the difference (In my mind) between speaking up and speaking out. What is silence ? Is silence not telling people when something happens ? Or can it be something different? If someone tells people that something happened but they still don't tell people the effect it had are they still keeping silent ? What about when you SCREAM something but no one hears, How does that relate to silence? Also it seems to be a common idea that talking helps . . . But does it ? Maybe sometimes before you can talk you need to know what it is you need to talk about. Now for speaking up and speaking out, I never saw a difference between the two but I think there needs to be one. It is possible to speak up and say that something happened, It is completely different to be able to speak out and say that it happened and deal with it. You could have no issues talking about something but when it comes to dealing with it internally you could not even have started the process.

I'm going to end this here because I think I put in a lot that might take some time for anyone to actually understand. I know it took me enough time to explain.


Oh, baby, baby, it's a wild world
It's hard to get by just upon a smile
Oh, baby, baby, it's a wild world
I'll always remember you like a child, girl

You know i've seen a lot of what the world can do
And it's breakin' my heart in two
Because i never wanna see you a sad, girl
Don't be a bad girl
But if you wanna leave, take good care
Hope you make a lot of nice friends out there
But just remember there's a lot of bad and beware
Cat Stevens~Wild World

I didnt blog yesterday so I thought I would today, Soooooo last class was a little intense there was a great debate on mental illness and wether or not it is a distinguishable factor in rape/incest/assault etc. My oppinion? Allthough some perpetrators are mentally ill it is a very small population that are and an even smaller population where there actions are caused by the mental illness. And more then that I believe that by saying "Oh well there must be something wrong with them to do that" Then we are validating there actions saying oh well its ok you were sick. What about this as a scenario,

A young girl is molested repeatedly by her friends brother the girl is around 8 and the brother around 14 or so. Would you say he is mentally ill? HE grew up to be perfectly fine with no issues. The young girl on the other hand grew up not trusting people and believing that she wasnt worth a real relationship. She has attachment issues and pushes people away because she feels that they will hurt her. Her self esteem and confidence also suffer from her blaming herself, When she reaced out for help the people around her dismissed it as the boy being curious.

Why are we so eager to make excuses for people? Why are we so eager to convince ourselfs that it is impossible for a human to cause that kind of harm? Are we naieve or is there more?

She whispered softly
To tell a story
About how she had been wronged
As she lay lifeless
He stole her innocence
And this is how she carried on
Well I guess she closed her eyes
And just imagined every thing's alright
But she could not hide her tears
'Cause they were sent to wash away those years
Creed~Wash away those years

I dunno quite what to write seeing as I missed most of class on tuesday, However I do have one thing I want to touch on when I get home from todays class. Its something thats been tugging at my mind strings so check back soon for some controversy cafe!

Im out!

I don't know where I stand thought wise when it comes to todays movie, On one hand I do sympathize with the step mother, Even though at first she didn't necessarily deal with the abuse that well at the end she really did do the best that she could do and I respect that however I can understand the pain that that child was going through I mean can you imagine being in that situation where your own father is raping you and you tell your step mother expecting her to help and as far as you can see she is doing nothing. That has got to hurt. So I guess you could say that I feel sympathy for both the step mother and the child, That leaves the father. Maybe Im harsh or a bitch . . . But I cant begin to fathom what would give somebody the idea that they are entitled or that it is acceptable to rape there own daughter. I just cant understand. As far as the community its self goes well we see every day people who see outrageous stuff happening but don't do anything to help for fear that it iwll effect them, Kitty Genovese was brutally raped and murdered 30+ people heard her screams and no one called the police until she was already dead. Where do we as humans determine that we are responsible for the well being of our fellow humans ?
This is becoming more sociology then womens studies so I shall bid thee adieu


Yesterday Love was such an easy game to play
Now I need a place to hide away
Oh I believe in yesterday
Yesterday~The Beatles

ughhhhhh

So me and Devin went to rob roys tonight to meet up with the doyle girls, I have class tommorow so I didnt drink also Im at this point where I dont see the use in drinking, I also chose to wear jeans and a HOODIE !!!! Well little good that did me!!

Walking across the bar to find kater some creepoid grabs my hand and gives me some skeezy wink! I elbowed him . . . .

Point proven ?? Dress is not an issue . . . .



They're saying
Don't ask why just wear what we say
You'll look like a model if you only obey
to get the attention just do what we say
Clothes~barlow girl


but what if I dont want the attention??

I think its sad how we define a persons value . . . Alot of people think of this in terms of the picton trial, I think about it in terms of K (initials used to protect privacy) When I was in grade 10 K joined our class she had just moved from the city and we bonded over mutual friends etc. She was an AMAZING person feisty,caring,smart and just alla round awsome. K was also troubled the reason she moved from the city was because of problems with drugs etc, This never meant anything to me, To me she was just K.

K left our class abrubtly, Later we found out it was because she ran away I didnt stp thinking about her but I juat assumed she was fine. That summer I had just gotten back from camp and fell asleep on the couch. The next morning my mom woke me up and asked if I knew a girl named K I was groggy and said yes without placing the name. However I woke up and asked why. Att his point my mom explained to me that they had identified her as the dead girl who was found dead in a park. I was shocked to shocked to comprehend here was this amazing girl dead at 15 her body found discarded like a peice of garbage.

K was not a bad person in any means at 15 you havnt had a chance to be bad she had barely started living her life by the time it was taken away from her. Sure she made mistakes she did run away she did do drugs and there were rumors of her prostituting herself. But why should that matter???? I dont care what she did I would have done anythign to help her . . . But it dosnt change anything. She was a person a friend daughter neice grand daughter just like me just like you. So why should her death mean any less?

Ks death was not treated unfairly, because of her age there was media coverage etc so this probally isnt they best example. I just dont think its right to judge someone or feel that they as people are less valuble because they are just as valuble as anyone else.



My little sister is a Zombie in a body with no soul
A role she has learned to play in a world today
where nothing else matters
But it matters, we gotta start feeding our souls
Hey little sister I heard you went to Mr. So and So
Knock, knock, knockin' on his door again last night
Said you needed more
Little Sister~Jewel

The past few classes the Montreal Massacre has been brought up in discussion, In those discussions it also gets brought up whether or not the issue of gender violence has improved. My first instinct was to respond with a yes it has but after more thought I was startled to realize that it hasn't at all. not only are we as a society still dealing with issues such a spousal abuse and acquaintance or date rape but even issues of mass violence against women have not been eliminated from society.

Take for example an event in the United States this October that made headlines all over the globe 32 year old Charles Carl Roberts walked into a one room Amish school house and shot and killed 5 girls execution style after asking the male students to leave the class room. This was a chilling reminder of the events that occurred at L'Ecole Polytechnique less then 20 years earlier.

What in our society makes crimes against females so much more common then crimes against males? Especially violent crimes such as these? I know that men are sexually assaulted and are victims of these types of crimes, Just today I read that the parents of a recently found kidnapped boy believes he was abused. But whens the last time you heard of females being asked to leave a room while the males were shot ? I'm yet to hear of this occurring.

The other thing that got me in class today was a video on date rape . . . This has been a topic that always gets to me. But what gets to me the most is when guys come up with he excuse of "oh well she said no but didn't mean it" or "well look how she was dressed she was asking for it" Should females be expected to wear burkas just to avoid the misconception that they want to get laid? I'm sorry I like to look decent when I leave my room, I like to show people that I respect myself and take time into making myself look decent I don't think I should be penalized for that.

I'm going to end this before I become very angry and start to sound hateful and immature.


"Get off of my bed
Yeah, thats what I said
Did i not tell you that I'm not like that
Girl the one who throws it all away
Did you think that I was gonna give it up to
You this time"

Avril Lavigne~Dont tell me

So a quick introduction for anyone who happened to randomly stumble across this blog, Im a 19 year old student at MUN taking pre social work and as a pre req course I need to take Womens Studies 2000 part of this course is keeping a reflective journal on the topics discussed. So this will be my reflective journal, I wanted to keep a blog for a few reasons so I'm going to quickly discuss those and then get into the actual journal part (probably in a separate post just to keep things organized)

The first reason I wanted to keep a blog as opposed to a hard copy journal was because I realized recently that there are a lot of myths and misconceptions surrounding womens studies programs as a whole and I wanted to clear some of that up.

Secondly I wanted to give a voice to some of the issues discussed, And this is a unique platform to do that. Why have a voice if your not going to use it?

Third I thought blogging would be a bit more efficient and the idea just seemed cool.

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